Power of Acknowledgement Part-2

In my previous article “Power of Acknowledgment part-1” you have seen how power of acknowledgement improves relations and keeps us happier, healthier, peaceful and more expressive.

Role of father is very important in any one’s life. In power of acknowledgement part-2 we will discuss the acknowledgment of 2 persons who are no more with me but their principles continue to guide me in my life.

When I was just 2-year-old there was partition in my family. To take care the properties my mother shifted to our village along with me, my brother and sisters. Whereas my father continued to work at Nashik. We were living in a big Kaccha house with other family members in our extended family. In totality there were 20 to 25 persons in our house. Now children’s feels loneliness but we were 10-15 children who used to play together, fight with each other, enjoy the mangoes of our own garden. We used to take bath in river for 2 to 3 hours until my mother reaches with a wooden rod in her hand. Although it was just to daunt us, not to actually beat us.  

My Father appeared to look tough but he was very loving to me. Not only me but he was very kindly and loving to all children of the village. Children too love him back. I remember once I had purchased a mixture which’s pouch contained a small tiny plastic comb. He saw it and shouted on me. I was annoyed and did not speak to him for few days. I thought he did not love me. After few days of this incidence when I was playing with 8-10 children’s he called us and gave Rs.5 and asked us to purchase something to eat. We went to nearby shop and purchased orange candies. All children were very happy and they conveyed thanks to him but I did not say anything to him. Now whenever I remember this episode I feel shame on my thought and realize his love which he taught us by sharing and caring.   

My younger son feels curios about money. Sometimes my father used to give me a box filled with coins of 10 paise and 20 paise. I used to keep it in safe condition and do not allow my brother or sister to even touch the box. In childhood I had little fighting nature. Once I asked why he used to give coin box to me only not to others. He replied in joke that he is giving to control my fighting spirit.

Rule of economics that we manage unlimited objects with our limited resources, works every time in life. I remember an incidence when one of my extended family members suggested him to purchase a farm in our village, which he politely refused. That farm was at prominent location. We were too very happy with this plan so could not understand reason of his refusal. Although we didn’t had courage to ask him so we approached mother to check with him. He replied to mother that children’s study is more important than any property. If they will be educated and cultured, then they will take care their needs.

Few years back Govt. made it compulsory for corporates to spend their 2% profit in welfare scheme. My father used to spend money on charitable purposes like marriages of daughters of persons who were less fortunate economically or helping someone in studies or gifting clothes etc. In some of his charitable expenses we opposed him but he remains firm on his decisions.

At that time, we could not realise in-depth of his thought process but today when I realise effect of his decisions then I feel that how matured his decisions were. We also visit our native place, meet peoples but neither we feel that type of oneness nor other peoples feel about us. We miss that love which was selfless, inclusive considering all as family.

Now after realisation of real life I miss him at every step of life. He always taught us to treat every person with respect. I wanted to mention here one incidence of my life which became strong testimony of his teachings. One day I was taking food by the time Mrs told me that health of Babu jee is not good. So let’s take him to hospital. We completed breakfast and wanted to go to hospital. He wanted to stand-up from bed but could not. He had healthy body we could not support. So I went down stairs and found my car cleaner. While leaving home he called Krishna (my younger son). By the time we took him down stairs in car with the help of our car cleaner and reached to hospital.  Where Doctors examined and expressed their inability to do anything.

Even at the time of his departure he gave us an unforgettable experience that poorest person of society has importance in our life. He is no more with us in physical form but his science of simple life shows us path of love and powerfulness every time. Thank you Babu jee for everything in my life.

Next person who have important role in my career is Daddy. He is father in law of my sister. He was very disciplined person. When I went to Kolkata for doing my CA course he supported me in my studies and gave me shelter. His concept towards studies were very strict. He always guided us to be single mindedness in studies and being honest to self. According to him if you are honest towards your studies then everything will fall in line.-  एकै साधे सब सधै, सब साधे सब जाय।     

I followed his advice with dedication. After shifting from his home to hostel I used to mention his home’s address in my Sunday test papers so that my mind continues to obey him. Whenever I got success in my CA exam he appreciated me simultaneously when I got failed he encouraged me for better studies.

Despite all his sacrifices I don’t remember that I would have conveyed my thanks to him.

Today these two personalities are not present physically but their love & affection continues to guide us on path of life.

To be continued...........
Co-powered by Mr Nitin Khandelwal - Social worker and reformer

If you have not read the first part of the article then read it here : Power Of Acknowledgement - Part 1